Looking for a little advice.

i have the same fantasy as you, don,t need the made to feel useless stuff. just want to watch my wife cum on someone elses cock. she is going to give it a go and we,ll see from there. as for advice i,m in the dark as much as you but i just thot i,d let you know you,re not alone.

dear watcarbonsmudger I think u need more than casual comments on line and this is a serious step. Ive done about everything sexually one can do that i wanted to do and have been a cuckold as well in an earlier marriage. if you really want to explore this we should probably chat on line at least----fantasy isnt a problem. reality is a ton of problems or potential problems-----uh excuse me but u said u had 8 incarbonsmudges, thats about 5 i would guess ----how does one deal with irrational ?? the arational ?? the true ambivalence ??Well anyway i wouldnt dare advise u knowing as little as i do and my 60 years tell me u do realy want to do the right thing so leave me an addy and I'll mail u if u want and if not then good luck and when in doubt one word : dont !!!! the old man

Thanks for the responses.
Anonymous, I appreciate you letting me know that I'm not alone. I hope you make the choice that suits you best. Does your wife or girlfriend know about your fantasy? If so, how has she dealt with it, and how long has she known of it? My fantasy has so recently been planted in my girlfriends head, it really needs time to mature before I can really guage her response to it.

Old Man, Thanks for the info man... it's well taken. Your last words certainly remisterated with me. The thing is, I know I shouldn't do it, that's not the question... I know it's not the right thing to do. Well, at least not at this stage in our relationship. We're still in our 20's, and not even married yet. Our sex is great, neither of us gets bored, but I still have this fantasy. Thing is... I get so aroused simply thinking about it and imagining certain situations, but the instant I cum it's over and I realize that it's not something I should go through with. It's just so hard not to listen to that voice when you're turned on though. I really need to realize what the risks are.

Anyway... I appreciate you wanting to permisterally give me advice, 1 on 1, but I'd rather stay anonymous. If you've got more to say go ahead and post it here... I'll be around.

hey watcarbonsmudger thats Ok, the last people I contacted on line didn't even know I was an ax-***er so imagine their surprise when I took out my ax !!! I hate that when it happens. I think you have answered your own question though by saying ".......I know its wrong but...." I'm sorry but there is no " but " after wrong. Trust me on this I'm not a doctor but i play one on TV, most of the evil I have ever seen(and I have been in the news business all my life) comes as a result of the misuse of the word but...as in I loved her BUT, I still had to ******* her....etc.IF YOU THINK ITS WRONG THEN THERE IS NO IF , AND OR BUT.....its wrong end of story...sorry to rain on your parade but better to fantasize and keep a good relationship than go to reality mode and destroy one ...... think about it and good luck... u owe me 100 bucks in therapy fee by the way..... the old man again

well ok i mis - quoted you . You said "not right " which in my book is wrong, right ?? I hope u are following my logic, ***d though it may be T.O.M.

Old Man, thanks bud, I'm still into the fantasy of this at least. That won't die. Still not really sure if I'd go through with it or not.

Update: So I've brought it up some more. Still somewhat casually. I've been describing situations to her and she gets extremely turned on. I've also introduced the idea of her simply flirting with guys alot more out in public, and possibly even talking, dancing or touching with them at clubs or bars. The only issue is, she's pregnant and unable to take. She really enjoys playing into my fantasy during sex now, but it's just that. She has certainly admitted that a big cock would make her cum, and also told me that she gets very turned on by hearing me talk about my fantasies because she likes hearing what gets me off. I wonder if that's the only reamister? Anyway, on the fantasy side, things are great... but she's still not really into actually doing it. She's repeatedly says she doesn't want to have sex with anyone but me and that she doesn't even desire anyone else ever. If I were a normal guy, that would be exactly what I want.