How to find women who like to use and abuse men

I've found that on some level most women enjoy adminstering some degree of torment on their men. That might be a little bit of playful teasing to the full extent of the extreme themes we enjoy on this site. But, finding the women who natively enjoy the more right side of that equation on a regular basis seems to be rare and hit or miss.

In a conversation with a woman-friend last night who does enjoy this, with a bottle of great wine, I asked her how men find her. Her answer surprised me. She said that men don't find her....she finds them. When men hit on her, she sizes them up. If they are too cocky, she enjoys breaking them down and embarassing them. If they are neutral, she loves them the most and wants to push their buttons to see how she can manipulate them. She said the wimpy men don't approach her but she would love to see how far she can drive them deeper and deeper into a state or real change. She finds these men anywhere and no where in paraticular.

We wondered aloud how other women find men or how men meet these type of women and what they do to engage in a dialogue about her desires to control and manipulate and use them or be controled, maniuplated and used. We also wondered if it's even opened discussed or if the relationship generally evolves in this way.

What have you experienced?