Wife wants to dominate but needs help.

My wife wants to dominate me but needs help. She is not sure how to start and has no general idea as what to do. We are looking for something that she can learn from. She has asked for videos but the ones I find are more porn male driven than instructional. If anyone has experience or a link to some good not porn videos that would be great.

She could have a look at Elise Sutton's website. No videos, but a lot of good articles.

Was looking for more videos without being outright PRO pornstars. Something that is not too hard for her to cut her teeth on. Thanks for any help.

argyrose's suggestion as to Elise Sutton's webpage is an excellent one. All levels there. Also it is done by a professional psychologist so that you don't get the porn orientation many sites and video's have.

Do give it a look before dismissing the idea.

If you have problems finding the link it is:

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FM

I looked at the site and it is not what we are looking for. Money is not the problem, I have paid for 4 different sites and none have what I am looking for they all end up being pros. I want a real video that my wife would want to watch with me and not laugh at it. My wife also a Master in Psych and a Phd in Neuro was not attracted to her site. I will keep looking, thank you for your help. if you have any other ideas let me know. Certain search words for search engines?

Have her contact me, powerd_entry12 on yahoo, IM or email if you're serious. I've been involved with D/s most of my adult life. But only if you're serious. I'll teach her what I know. She can take it from there.

funcpl69, I wish you luck in the search. Most of the video's I have seen are done by pros and excuse me - boring. Most of their eyes show them balancing their check-book and not really being into it.

Some of blog sites might work as well as myspace or mytube. You need luck there more than anything else.

All I can offer you from my experience is go with what works for you two. When I do a scene, I start with X, then see where it goes. Sometimes it turns HOT and sometimes it fizzles. Learn from each other, as there is no right way. Their is your way. I will also offer that sometimes it is the small details which have the greatest control impact. And the two of you know the details better than anyone here.

On search words think of words that "turn you on" - it could be chastity, powerd feminzation, femdom, etc. etc. etc. There are so many variations and the mind does have strange but very individual corners in it.

There are excellent forums (some are people just looking for free sex, but some real people mixed in) on alt.com and bondage.com. Those are two I like, but there are others.

Again good luck, and sorry I couldn't help more.

FM

Thank you for the advice we have been sitting down and hashing out the details it is coming along slowly.

You might try guba.com. It is a pay site, but not too expensive. It has all sorts of pictures and videos.

I have seen a number of cuck videos there, including some bbc.

It is my opinion that finding exactly the right video is very difficult. That is why the written fantasies work so well. You can even copy the story and edit it to make it fit to your wife's preferences.
I will make you crazy.

funcpl69, a crazy thought picking up something jancana said.

I don't know if the two of you feel comfortable writing. Why not write your own script as a "continuing story". Has been done on some list servers and seems to work well.

Basically you or she starts, then leaves it open at a critical point ... the other picks it up and puts in their thoughts and again leaves it open, repeat. Writing tends to release fantasies. After a predetermined lenght you sit together and read the joint work... your own script for your play. You don't have to follow it excactly, but it sure will give you food for thought.

FM

The problem with advice on how to dominate is that you will get ideas from people that will slant it based on their own viewpoint. Some will insist on feminization or sissification or the couple never fucking. None of that is important as the 2 most important facts. #1 Her needs come first, but #2 if you don't get something out of it then it won't last long. I reccomend the two of you searching the net for a lengthy purity test, one that has categories like A. will do it B. might try it, c. will do it if my partner wants to e. probably won't do it, e. absolutely not. When you are done see where you agree. If that is not what you are looking for, then discuss the probably wills and probably won'ts and find compromise. Don't get too specific about exact details you want some sponyaneity. Never forget once you are into it, it is possible that that one or two of the never will do its, might become more palatable for either or both of you.

It is not about cucking, powerd bi, or frminizing. It is what will turn your wife on yp to the limitations you have and for her to see if she can gradually expand your borders and maybe you expand hers.

not to "double dip", but I am going to 'double dip'.

For me, just the conversation with my partner about what will turn her on is incredibly intimate. When two people develop the ability to clearly and honestly state what turns them on, what turns them off, that is really cool.

I have a close friend who is straight, but like to cross-dress. He had two wives dump him when he told them the truth. His present partner has gotten into it with him.

There is no greater turn-on than being able to tell your intimate partner what really, really, really, is going on inside.

But, you must be trustworthy. You must be willing and able to accept your partner in return. Really, really, really accept your partner.

I believe that the critical element which I must posess, is the ability to put my partner's pleasure ahead of mine. If my partner does the same for me, then we can achieve ecstacy as we try to please each other.
I will make you crazy.

HMMM......Two post graduate degrees AND HAVING TROUBLE COMING UP WITH IDEAS??? Methinks the lady is "pro test" too much!!
SEX is not SCIENCE!!! I'm not surprised that you're having trouble finding "quality" videos...most are geared towards the male of the species at his most primal level(ie... slobbering dogs waiting to get some of the action[after alpha arfy is done])
MY advice is more EXPERIENTIAL and PLAYFUL activity, leaving the analysis out of the analkiss and sissyswish
Who's Your Bitch.single,cuz not man enuf to attract a woman.
Will meet for sissy sex with yor cuck!!

I CAN'T STOP...imagining the character LILITH from the old Cheers, TV show!!!!
AND DAAAAMN!!!!..........SHE COULD CUCK ME ANYTIME!!!
Who's Your Bitch.single,cuz not man enuf to attract a woman.
Will meet for sissy sex with yor cuck!!

The best one to help your wife dominate is you, yourself.

One way I've seen work for some people is: First be honest with her, let her know what you like and how you wish her to dominate you.

Second, ask her permission to allow you to purchase and wear a CB-3000 (or suitable equivalent).

Third, be truthful by telling her many men use the CB for an excuse to bottom for other men, and for her to be very vigilant that you are not doing so. Ask her to help your fidelity to her by ensuring there is no cum or latex on your breath and your rectum has not been ***d. She must be very diligent in keeping you for herself and HER pleasure, not another's.

Fourth, use a plastic lock for the CB. This assures her you are enjoying the scene because you could easily remove it otherwise.

Fifth, let the scene evolve. Allow her to acclimate to her new found domina role as you adjust to your submissive one.

Sixth, communicate your feelings and thoughts on your enjoyments. Assist her in administering her dominance over you.

Seventh, her pleasure is most important. She calls the shots however SHE feels the most comfortable, not you. The more she's a real cunt to you, the more you'll love it. Let her wear the pants and she just MAY let you wear the panties. That's really what you wish anyway. Admit it.
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

Well I don't know who is helping my wife, but she went from a "noraml wife" to a cuckoldress, who has started domminating and femming me in just 4 weeks. I know she read a How to Femm your hubby guide written by AK Remenko or something available on Fictionmania. Its early days for us, but shes wayyy ahead of me. i like the idea (rather love) the idea of bbeing a cuck but as for the femm part, well not sure about that.

Great to hear that sb64....congrats!

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