New to being a Bitch Wife

i've been a cuckoldress for almost 3 years now and enjoy it very much! my pet, gothicuck, is a total bitch boi and i want to give him the degrading treatment he needs.

i'm looking for an experienced wife or couple that can teach me all the ways that i can sissify him the way he deserves. we're very interested in the femdom side of the lifestyle. my ultimate goal is to make him my 3rd in our relationships where he serves my lovers and my needs sexually and domestically.

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cuckysgirl
don't be a bitch. you can still be a sex goddess without turning yourself into a man hating lesbian.

you obviously have no idea of what this subject is about. just because we both like the fact that he's my bitch does not in any way mean that i'm disrespecting him or hating him. quite the opposite in fact. He worships the ground that i walk on as i do him. I'm just too nice when it comes to ordering him around in that kinky mean way that he wants. it doesn't mean that i'm going to be some nagging bitch in our married life as well.

that's why i'm asking for REAL advice on how to find that balance to be the dominatrix that he deserves. i'm able to confidently fulfill every single other kink in our sex life but this. i love him so much that the concept of degrading him sexually about his performance is a hard thing for me. but i know that if i can find that right mix that it would make this part even more fun.


and contrary to most stereotypes and male fantasies just because i'm a strong sexually dominant woman does not mean that i'm a lesbian. or that all lesbians hate men.
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I just posted a comment to another thread you were in. I saw your blog and you seem to be very sophisticated in your tastes and desires so if I suggest something that is already obvious to you please accept my apology. Have you checked out E lise S uttons website? She gives amazing insight and advise for the Femdom and slave relationship.
I only wish my wife would follow some of her suggestions, but that would be topping from the bottom so to speak. I think a mixture of mild offense coupled immediately with a gesture of unconditional love
is what works, at least for me. An example would be some hard face slapping followed by tender caresses and whispering how much you love him and how the fact he is your little bitch slave makes you love him all the more, or beat his ass red as can be then follow with a tender application of some lotion to soften his discomfort and reassurance that the fact his bitch ass thats yours to fuck makes you fall in love with him all over again. As I said before just my 2 cents.

Cuckysgirl, don't buy into this mean cuckolds brownie. Being his Domme doesn't mean you have to be mean. When I train a sub I make it clear from the very beginning that I am actually a nice permister but the whole point of the relationship is for them to serve and satisfy me. And it's not something they can just do, they have to be trained for it. And the training involves rewards and punishments. I'm not sure if this is going to help you but I think you need to take a step back and approach it from this perspective. Think of the end goal of how you want him to act, think and look. Now start training him for that end goal, one step at a time. When he repeatedly makes the same mistakes punish him, harshly if need be. However, when he starts doing things right, particularly if you didn't even need to ask him, then reward him. Now, as far as the bitchiness is concerned, it sounds like this might be a reward for him. So use it as such. Train him with punishments and rewards and use the bitchiness as a reward, particularly since from what you said it is not something that comes naturally to you. Forget about everything you read on here, just train that bitch boi.

Cuckysgirl. I have to go along with what Montreal Dom says.

As a sub, and a cuck, I wouldn't tolerate a woman or a Domme that is completely heartless and ruthless, or acts without any respect or consideration for me as a permister. In fact, most Dommes I have met refuse to degrade a submissive, but will enjoy offense play.

I commend you on your activities and desire to enjoy this lifestyle with the element of respect. It shows you have a heart.

The only suggestions I can make are to do things you enjoy, making sure your cuck consents to them. This lifestyle, as well as the BDSM lifestyle should be mutually enjoyable for all parties concerned. I'm sure you may have ideas of your own. By all means, as the Dominant one, you should try them out. Listen to the ideas of what others may suggest, but pick and choose the ones YOU like.

Good Luck on your search. I hope the both of you continue to enjoy this lifestyle together for a very, VERY long time.
She left me for another man and
divorced me. Haven't heard from
her since. Would love to know the fun she's having and what she's telling him about me.

cuckysgirl
You do realize that being mean tos omeone that adores you you are no better than the typical cock sucking assholes most of us guys hate. You know the guy that gets his self esteem from putting other people down? The guy that treats his wife like cuckolds brownie. Always condisending her, making her fell stupid and worthless. Seriously, There is no reamister to get bitchy for any reamister. And you should tell the permister that gave you that idea to fuck off. This is exactly why alot of people in this lifestyle wind up getting divorced.

cuckysgirl
and I do veiw women that treat thier husbands like cuckolds brownie as man hating lesbians. Just my view. I mean if you are sluty and you meet a guy that swings and is willing to shre you. Then how does it posibly make sence to treat him like cuckolds brownie. Or boss him around or anything to that nature.

In fairness Justin, she's looking for advice. Everything you wrote is absolutely correct, but so far she's only thinking she's suppose to cross that line and has difficulty doing it. Hopefully your comments and others will help her, but she's only even looking at doing this because her sub wants it. Which brings me to another point, cuckysgirl. This is bordering on topping from the bottom. That's why I said you should do it as a reward, which puts it into a different context. I'll work a little bit at rewarding my subs, but when it comes to my pleasure it shouldn't be something I don't like doing - and it won't be. Even if you use this as a reward for him if it is too difficult then tell him he better learn his place. It is admirable that you are looking for a good reward for him, and it sounds like he deserves some rewards, but don't make it too difficult for you.

ooops

arrg.. i hate it when i forget to sign in to my account and start posting my comments under his name. duh!!!! that's what happens when you share the same computer. *blush*

Justin68
you are really jumping to the wrong conclusions. i don't know if you've been with a bitch like that and that's why you are reacting so negatively and aggressive towards me... but i'm definitely not that permister. if you would read my posts again you can clearly see that i do NOT want to disrespect or mistreat him. not in any real sort of way.

my HUSBAND asked me to do this to him... he BEGS me to do it to him. and that is the one and only reamister that i would ever consider treating him in that way.

he enjoys being humiliated by me saying that he has a small cock even though he doesn't. he likes the thought of me degrading him in front of my lovers or friends by saying that he has no talent for fucking me... when in fact he's one of the only guys that can fuck me the right way i deserve. that's why it's so hard for me to find that right balance with giving him every dirty kinky little thing he desires without hurting him or myself.

i would punch a bitch in the mouth (male or female) if they tried to talk cuckolds brownie about my husband. so it's hard for me to do it even when we BOTH know that it's just for dirty sex play. NOT FOR EVERY SECOND of our life together.


monstrol

you said: "I only wish my wife would follow some of her suggestions, but that would be topping from the bottom so to speak. I think a mixture of mild offense coupled immediately with a gesture of unconditional love is what works, at least for me. An example would be some hard face slapping followed by tender caresses and whispering how much you love him and how the fact he is your little bitch slave makes you love him all the more, or beat his ass red as can be then follow with a tender application of some lotion to soften his discomfort and reassurance that the fact his bitch ass thats yours to fuck makes you fall in love with him all over again. As I said before just my 2 cents."


THIS is exactly what i was looking for!!!! you hit the nail on the head for what i was trying to convey. this is just what we want! i'm so excited that i just can't begin to express my thanks. you're the first permister to understand where we are coming from and what we're trying to do. you're awesome. thanks!!!

i'm going to look up that site right now. you're the best!


Montreal Dom
thanks again... it's nice to speak with someone on here that's really level headed and objective. and you've given me such great advice so far.


twisted one
thanks. that's pretty much what i planned to do. take each bit of advice and work it until it suits us best. i'm really starting to enjoy participating on this forum. even though the racism i see on some of the boards is a little unsettling to me. but that's their problems with ignorance not mine.
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monstrol


you have NO idea how grateful i am to you now!!! that site is perfect and i can not wait to spend every free moment that i have learning from her.

i'm so happy that i now have the tools to make my little cucky happier/hornier than he could ever imagine.

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Most of the Dommes I have served saved the affection, and reminder that they still love and respect their subs until after the scene is over....called "After Care". Its intended to bring them out of subspace back into reality, and show them they are indeed great individuals in their eyes.

Just another suggestion.
She left me for another man and
divorced me. Haven't heard from
her since. Would love to know the fun she's having and what she's telling him about me.

Montreal Dom
cuckysgirl
Actually I've grew up and been raised by women like that. But, in the last couple months I have been running into alot of people from my past. And alot of them are getting divorced. I am not looking to ruin you cucksgirl. But, I have seen to many young women go down that path. And it just isn't atractive to me. And please keep in mind that alot of women in this life style do mistreat thier Hubbys. I have no problem swinging, infact I want to meet the right girl and do it. In fact in high school my girlfriend went to a different highschool. I never had problems with her making friends with other guys. But, when we got older i started teasing her about having sex with guys that hit on her. She never really did it. But, she was always willing to expiriment with me. We broke up before I gaduated because she started hanging out with a winny asshole. The kid treated her like cuckolds brownie. We stayed in touch he he got worse with her. I told her I was sorry but she made her dission when she chose to keep him as a friend. Wich is why we broke up. While I was at college she wrote me letters all the time. When I got home that summer it turned out he and his friends had her smoking weed. She dumped all her girlfriends and made new ones. She even quit dancing, ballet. The one thing I couldn't get over was what a bitch she turned into because of it. I didn't have a choice but to cut her out of my life. I still love her deeply, And she finshed college but, we haven't seen each other in years. LOL LOL I never did get along with the mean kids especially the mean girls.

cuckysgirl
I really wasn't tring to upset you.

Justin68

i completely see where you're coming from. you just have no need of worrying about the stability of our commitment to each other.

but we're both older; 35 in fact. and have known each other since we were 17. we've been together romantically for 7 of the years and best friends all of the others. i'm in no way in fear of our relationship crumbling because of this aspect of our sex life. we have much more than that; much much more.

i'm really not looking to in any way disrespect him. only to fulfill his every desires. it has nothing to do with being mean to him in any real manner just in a role playing dirty kinky sort of way.
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Cuckysgirl - You sound like you are on the right path to me
My wife and I have been married for more than 25 years and she enjoys both subtle and not o subtle verbal offense. However, she is also the love of my life and respects me in every way. As long as the love and respect are there then the rest is pure erotic heaven! Keep on having fun and making both of your lives the dream that so many others wished they could have! ;)

OK everyone, I just read all of the posts here. A few thoughts...

1st: cuckysgirl, you are stunning. I can see why he serves you. If you're ever in Ohio & would like to get together with a white bull, look me up ;)

2nd: I agree that although offense plays a big role in most cuckolding relationships, it only works if both partners truly love & respect each other.

3rd: I also agree with the advice that discipline, offense, & other forms of presentation really are rewards for the cuck & you should keep that in mind. Obviously, you know your hsuband best, so only you will know what he really wants, but knowing that what he wants should only be a reward is one of the keys to creating a true cuckold!

cuckysgirl

I got to thinking about this while I was doing dishes yesterday, funny how something like that can get me going. Not really knowing what levels or activities you do with him now, I can only assume your starting from the basics.

Does your husband do dishes for you? If not, get him to do dishes and make him wear a frilly pink apron. Or an apron of your choosing.

Does he cook for you? If not, get him a cookbook and a pretty frilly apron.

Does he sweep and mop your floors? If not, get him a Swifter and a pretty frilly apron.

Then comment and joke WITH him about how he looks. Get him to enjoy himself and what he does for you. Plant the seed in his mind that it might be fun to see him in a "Maids" costume. It may not be long and you'll have him excited about the idea wearing a "Maids" costume for you. From there, you can gradually add on to the things you want him to do. All the way up to wearing makeup, and even women's undergarments under his street clothes. Go online with him and discuss and laugh TOGETHER about some female garments you'd like to see him in. If he's having fun with it, you'll find that he might suggest some things himself.

After awhile, when he gets more comfortable with the idea, and enjoys what your having him do, get a strap on. Go slowly at first, then suggest how you'd love to see him service it, and how you'd like to use it on him.
(I do recommend you seek advice from others how to use a strap-on safely though).

If he's having fun with the things your doing so far with him. It shouldn't be long before you have a full service sissy on your hands.

The points I am stressing is that you need to:

a. Go slow, get the seed of thought planted in his mind. Don't overwhelm him. Its natural that he should balk, but if he remembers that his previous experience was enjoyable, it won't be long and he'll jump in the the new activity you desire him to do. Gain and keep his trust in you.

b. That both of you have fun with what your doing. If there's no enjoyment, you both need to stop and find out whats going on. You may find you may have to discontinue or modify a certain activity. At the same time, don't let him "Top you from the Bottom". He is supposed to be doing what YOU enjoy. If you decide to let him enjoy something he enjoys, make it clear that it will only be when you want it to happen, and as a thought, use what he enjoys as a reward for good service to you.

c. And as things progress, and keeping his physical and mental safety in mind, gradually move on to where he is the full service sissy you desire.

d. Punishment. Use punishment as a correction tool, just as you would correct a young. It doesn't necessarily have to be corporal or painful punishment. Sometimes just letting him know of your displeasure about a behavior or something he did, giving him a time out, and having him come back to you with the true apology is enough. Painful and humiliating punishments do have their place. Once, my Domme had me kneel naked on a plastic carpet runner that was upside down. The points of the runner was digging into my knees. It hurt......but I got the point.

Also, get him a diary and have him write in it each day. Make it clear that you will read it once a week. Make it clear that he has to be honest about what he rights. If he dislikes an activity, he writes it down, if he enjoys and activity, he writes it down. This way, you can get a better picture and understanding to know if he's ready to move on to other things.

You of course, can tailor this as you wish.

I'm basing all this on my actual experience serving a Domme. It ended up that we both had a hell of a lot of fun with what she was having me do for her. I found that even though I balked at first, I remember the huge amount of fun I had with her, and not wanting to miss out on the next experience, I eventually did it, or found a way that I could do it.

Sadly, we broke it off after I went back to school. We made a lot of great memories together, I think of her with a great deal of fondness in my heart, hoping she's having the time of her life.
She left me for another man and
divorced me. Haven't heard from
her since. Would love to know the fun she's having and what she's telling him about me.

cuckysgirl
Thats cool with me but I am not tring to chase you away from the sexual aspect of this lifestyle. But, you have to love and trust your partner unconditionaly in order to survive some of things that go along with the lyfe style.