acceptance??

This seems the right forum to bring up my concerns.

This year i was contracted abroad and was living away from my home country for 9 months.
This meant leaving my sexy girlfriend with the promise of regular visits from her but was confident there would be no problem as me and girlfriend were discussing marriage next year and have been a couple for 3 years.
Anyway i kind of guessed a problem may be emerging when her visits became less regular and she was always talking about "partying" with her friends.
I got back about 3 months ago and face- a) she has been having an affair for about 6 months b) the affair is with an older black guy she met when out clubbing c) we are back together (kind of) and she wants us back together and still interested marriage but wants to carry on and is still seeing this guy? d) from what i can see i end up being a cuckold if i support her wishes e) i love her, we both get on great, she tells me other guy is- "just sex and fun" but overall find it humiliating, some rare times when she and i are horny do get turn-on on at idea of some hung black guy fucking her but overall mostly feel anxious and humiliated.

Thoughts??

Pic of her below

Nice girlfriend you have there , I think you are a probably cuckold, only one way to find out for sure what type of cuckold now. Why not just sit back and enjoy the ride. I do not think you should give her the choice of him or you. YOU make that choice and leave her if it does not work out, giving here the choice might make things between you messy and as you are away from her now, it might be the end of the relationship.

Why not try to get involved and see how you both feel, get her to give you updates when she goes out, send you pre-night out photos and maybe more along the way

Send her a few choice videos on the subject of cuckolding see how she takes the idea of being a cuckoldress.
http://youcuck.com/videos/sexy-hot-wife-getting-drilled-by-regular-bull-sissy-husband-kneels-and-watches-in-corner/

If you're not happy with the situation, tell her you want her to stop or it's over with you. Then she has a decision to make. If it turns you on "sometimes" you may just need a little time yourself before you'll find it something you both enjoy.

A lot of guys jerk off like rabid monkeys to the idea of their woman fucking someone else, but what you described is how it really is. It's raw and emotional.

Now that you've been smacked in the face with the reality version you need to decide if it's for you. Some can't take the conflicting emotions. The two of you need to talk about everything. You already have a trust problem, because she began seeing him without telling you. If you can resolve that, then you need to figure out if it's going to be "you or him"... or if you want to try and hang in there and create some version of cuckold relationship. Only you can decide. Good luck...
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

What PC has said is exactly right. It's decision time, either give her an ultimatum, 'It's him or me' type of thing, or learn to live with it. I guess you know what most people on this site are going to tell you. Why would you be here if you didn't find the idea exciting and secretly it's what you want.
On a purely personal note, she's fucking gorgeous man, the idea of her squirming under some older black guy, who's obviously teaching her to develop her inner slut, is as Hot as fuck! She was always made to be shared. you'd be amazed at how good a relationship you can have with her as a cuckold. Be brave, man up, and embrace it as a change of life style, you'll learn to love it!

You may never get another chance to experience a cuck relationship, so go for it and give it a try. its addictive for sure. just like your first parachute jump, it scares you to death even thinking about it, but after the first jump, your hooked. you can always call it off if by some chance you don't enjoy, but I doubt it...she's fucking gorgeous! I can imagine her dripping with his cum while you are underneath, man what a vision of hotness

pops

Guys thanks for all posts and lots personal messages

Yes agree she is gorgeous (another pic below) -one of many reason see her as my princess, and yes always had issues with guys hitting on her-something i found semi hot/annoying at time but chicken feed compared to situation now.
As all say need serious talk with her, idea of him or me decision scary as not want lose her but never set out to be some kind sub-missive sex observer!!, the idea of her having a "friend" even if enhances our sex and love life seems life changing step.

Will post more when things progress.

You're so right, it is a life changing step, generally for the better, if you can handle it mentally.

The more I see of your wife, the harder I'm getting - with a wife as Hot as this, she's made for sharing.

Let me interject this.......if you DO give her an ultimatum of "me or Him"...and if she DOES choose you.....that will NOT be the end of it. She WILL cheat on you...she WILL go back to Black...either this Man or some other Black Men. I have known scores and scores of mwfs who "went Black" and TRIED to quit...for fear of being discovered and divorced...and ALL of them go back to Black. ALL of them. Just saying.

I wish you luck.

I know it's an old saying, 'Once you go black you never go back' but as Jodired says, it's true. It's a door that once opened cannot be closed again. Either never open the door (dull and boring!) or embrace it. It doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship, it often means the enhancing of that relationship, and a more fulfilling one too.
Let us know what you decide, but for fucks sake talk to her.

I don't necessarily agree that "once you go black you never go back". My wife tried black and no longer has an interest in it. However, jodired and kennyboy make a great point that any woman who tastes something she likes may find it difficult to settle for less. She might agree to remain monogamous, but over time every couple's sex life cools off to some extent. When that happens she will likely feel the pull of temptation again...
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

You don't have to become a submissive bystander who simply "knows" his woman is enjoying sex with other man; or who just jerks off while watching his woman having sex with another man. In my opinion, a man who "shares" his woman (MFM sex or absentee sex) with another man is still a cuckold.

ALL women have a natural desire to have sex with a variety of men. However, ALL women also desire that one man who will be her "soul-mate", that she can depend on for security, support and comfort.

My hot wife and I have been married for 43 years. She has continuously "cucked" me during those 43 years. Our marriage keeps growing stronger. I have been approached by many men (and women) who asked why do I "permit" my wife to be "unfaithful" to me. My response: ORGASMS, hers, his (them) and mine. In addition, when the fucking is completed, she always goes home with me.

By all means communicate with your girlfriend. Be honest and totally frank with her. Discuss your fears with her. If you both cannot reach a mutually agreeable lifestyle to follow, then you go your separate ways. Better to never form a relationship, then to have one that ends in sadness, pain, anger and hatred. I wish both of you ALL THE BEST.
A man has not lived until he watches another man fuck his wife!

Absolutely! Slowly but surely people are coming to realize that. Anyone who shares his wife in any manner is a cuckold. You don't need to add any of those other fetishes.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Ok

So have kind of decided what to do- thanks for all pov on forum- am seeing her tomorrow night for dinner and chat.

Agree she is gorgeous, special, don't want to risk losing her (holiday photo below) so will not push him or me discussion.

Will ask how she sees things,ie what want out me and him relationships?, she has said sees me as long term and marriage material, how she see relationship him? eg just short term fling/let steam off before marriage?

I don't want secrets, open and trust instead, her not hide other relationship eg me meet him?, their relationship part our relationship not secret and separate?- reality is don't know, making it up as go along but will make it work if can.

I hope it goes well for you all!

mr two

Tell her to do what she wants, but to make sure you are not left in the dark. Ask her to text you, send you pics, maybe short video's. Let her know you want to be involved as much as possible. Good luck, look forward to hearing more.

I think this is something you want to do, but are having trouble admitting it because all your life society has given you the message that it's not normal and you should be jealous and keep other men away from "your woman". Don't be embarrassed if it turns you on and you want her to fuck and suck other guys. We're all here because that's exactly what we want too!

Just relax and enjoy it and consider how lucky you are. Not only is your girlfriend into what you like, but it's with a guy that's older (how much?) and black. For me those are two things that make it even hotter.

News- she has begun to open up which is great- she went on recent date with guy and text selfie-photo enclosed to me.

Good that situation out in open now, no secret cheating vibe now- i have asked her if i can meet the guy also.

reluctant2share
This is progress, keep an open mind, you're getting there, as will her black friend no doubt!

That is great. Reward her for opening up... lavish her with affection... show her how you appreciate it and want more. Positive feedback will get your more!
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

SheDatesHeWaits is soooo right! Show your appreciation. I have never treated my wife more like a queen than when she finally started to bring me home a well fucked pussy, and even more so when she was able to get me into the bedroom with them while they were making love. It was a life changing moment which memory I treasure among the best nights of my life.

All the above advice seems great & I would add that during the discussions with your girl & her boyfriend(s) you make your perspective, wants/needs clear to all also, such as your not being submissive to whatever, etc., so you are all on the same page with accurate understanding. Heck, why couldn't you & her playmates become regular friends also who just happen to play with the same girl? Your the regular, long-term, most important guy for her. The others are playtime friends, like sports buddies, who may hang out & help with other stuff too, but, they go home & have most of their lives elsewhere too. Your lives intersect for sex with her & maybe for some other good times. My hub loves that with my black boyfriends & our 4 d@ughters black boyfriends. He said it's like having brothers & sons around to hangout with & do other stuff with.