Testing your wife's possible acceptance of IR sex

I imagine many others here, like myself, go through life with a wife who knows nothing of our fantasies and would probably be shocked if she did. However, I can't help but wonder if she would have an interest, especially if it was her little secret and I didn't know (she would probably be too embarrassed).

I'm currently thinking of ways to test her to see if she is interested in black cock, without her having to let on to me that she is. I thought some of these ideas would be of interest to others in a similar situation although I may be late to the game and everyone has thought of these before...

1) Sending her an email through an anonymous mail service that either included a really hot interracial picture or a link to a site such as this one. (I realize this might get marked as spam). Then seeing if she mentions it to me and checking her computer to see if she kept it or visited the site.

2) Sending her a physical picture or black sex toy through the mail with a note from a secret admirer (future black master). I mentioned this in another thread I posted in this forum. The ultimate thrill would be for her to keep it without telling me.

3) I'm in the process of this one now. My wife has stopped taking the pill due to high red pressure so I ordered an assortment of multi-colored condoms (yellow, green, etc.) I also ordered a bunch of black condoms which I mixed in. I plan to let her pick the color and see what her preference is. Will let you know how this turns out.

4) Finally, I have begun to bring her to orgasm by rubbing her clit with my dick inside of her. I then pull out and go down on her. I figure this would closely mirror someone fucking her and then me, her cuckold, going down on her to clean it up. So far this has worked really well and she seems to cum really hard the second time.

If anyone has tried any of these things themselves, I'd love to hear your results.

Ace5

A friend bought his wife a big black dildo. He used it on her alternating between himself and the dildo. Then he used it in her pussy as he did her ass. She started using it herself as he did her. In three short months she was hinting at how nice it would be if it were real and could cum. She's been picking up blacks for two years to do threesomes .

Does she have any idea you are interested in black men fucking her? If so, then I think she may catch on to #1 & 2 pretty quickly. I like the idea but mine certainly would at this point.

My wife was completely turned off to black, till I bought an i/r movie and watched it with her. She never saw anything like it, and was very turned on by it.

My wife was also completely turned off by black, would make me fast forward through any IR scenes when we did watch a porno. But once we were about to fuck and an IR scene came on and her pussy drenched itself. From that day forward, I would push to watch them and made her recognize and tell me about her pussy that was betraying what she told me by the moisture it produced. Then we got a dildo and the rest took care of itself.

Interesting post Ace -love to know how it turns out

Very good ideas. Dropping IR stuff around the place (either hardcore and softcore) to be 'accidentally' found by your wife really works! At least, it worked with mine.

i agree with the black dildo strategy- that's what I did. Well actually it was brown..it was brown real-life shape with vibrator; of course she (almost any woman I suppose) loves the vibrator on her clit, then I'd fuck her with it and almost always be saying "wouldn't it feel even better if it was real." After years, she agreed! the rest as they say is history

I do not have to test my wife's interest in IR sex. Before we hooked up, she dated a black guy for over three years. Now, often when she is angry at me she will taunt me about how much more he satisfied her with his bigger and harder cock.

I can say with 99% certainty that she has no idea so I don't think she would connect it to me. I've never even brought up the subject for fear of her thinking I'm nuts. She's not very open about this type of stuff so even if she had the slightest interest, I doubt she'd ever admit it to me.

Ace5

I've found it easier to overcome one problem at a time. First, her fucking someone that is not me. Start with dancing, then making out, "soft swinging" (oral only), then getting fucked.
Usually, once she has sucked off a few guys- their color doesn't matter. If your real goal is to get her a BBC, then don't talk about the "black", just talk about the "big"- get her to start swinging, then, how the guy looks will matter, not his color.
The easiest way to get her addicted to BBC? Just get her addicted to big- then choose the color for her!

Before we were together my wife went out with a blk guy while out of state, huge cock but couldn't get it up??? After we got together we were at a swingers party, she showed intrest in a yng blk guy there, she asked him to dance...ten min later he was putting the meat to her, 15 min she was screaming. That was our beginning....
wife would rather have cock left over than room for more!!!!

ace5
Sounds like you are in a great place. Keep us posted on how it goes once you start planting the BBC material

Think like a girl, choose stories over pictures. Look at 50 Shades of Gray. In books, white girls love being a sex slave.

Enjoy complimenting Black athletes, rappers and celebrities. Former pimps like Ice T are especially good choices. Let her see you reading or watching something about how though power of will he went from the ghetto to a multimillionaire. Ice T keeps a white wife and owns porn sites too. You can also remark what a glamourous life white celebrity girls have after they get fucked by Black Men.

If you or her take beer out of a can or a glass, make the switch to something in a brown bottle. The subliminal act primes the subconscious to accept Big Black Dicks in your mouth.

I know this will make you all jealous, but let me tel you how I tested my wife's acceptance:

We met through online dating, and as she lived far away, we had lots of chats and emails, etc. It didn't take long before we were talking about sex. She said she liked porno, so we started sending each other pictures. Hers usually had a theme of several men and one woman, gang bang type things. So that was good. I sent her some of blowjobs, fucking, all sorts of things, and then started to slip in black guys with white women. She loved them! She came right out and said she had always wanted to have sex with a black guy. I told her I would like to see that.

So that was easy!!

Here's an update for anyone interested...

I had purchased 60 condoms online which consisted of a 24 pack of multi-colored, 12 purple and 24 black. I mixed them all together in a bag and told my wife that I had bought a color assortment bundle.

The other night I finally got to put her to the test. We started fooling around and I got up to go to the bathroom. I handed her the bag and told her to pick a color. When I returned, I saw that she had picked a black condom. We resumed fooling around and I noticed that she was instantly wet (much juicier than normal) and breathing deeply with just a finger going inside her.

I paused to put on the condom and made sure to lay back so she could stroke my cock. I wanted her to see her petite, white hand wrapped around my now black shaft. She normally has no interest in hand jobs, but this time she was stroking for all she was worth. Instead of just laying there, not really into it, I noticed that she was looking at my cock and genuinely seemed to be trying to make me cum.

After a few minutes I mounted her and slid right in, she was dripping. She actually leaned up to look down at my "black" cock moving in and out of her. Her breathing was really heavy as I massaged her clit while fucking her. She came hard after just a couple of minutes and actually let out a little yelp (this from a woman who never makes any noise). I pulled out and went down on her. I've never seen her so wet in my life; her juices were everywhere. I jammed 2 fingers into her and massaged her clit with my other hand. She started clamping down on my fingers, contracting in and out until she came again a few minutes later. These were the hardest orgasms I've ever seen her have.

I got back up and started fucking her again. She immediately threw her legs around my back and locked her ankles to pull me in deep. Again, this is something she's never really done or has done half-heartedly. After a few minutes of bottoming out, I blew my load into the condom. She held me inside her tight like she never wanted my dick to not be inside her.

I have to say it was quite an experience and definitely seemed to indicate she may have some fantasies of her own when it comes to black cock. I plan to keep testing the waters in the coming weeks and see if she continues to favor the black condoms and if her reaction is as strong with the others.

Wish me luck!

Ace5

One piece of strategy is showing her other white girls who are delighted with having sex with black men, pointing out when they say they can be great lovers a.s.o. With my young wife it has worked, that way.

Stories stories stories.... most woman are literal and sending them images of cocks is a bit much at first..... you are playing with the condoms roll play? even if you are just teasing when u suggest it.... baby steps and do not rush things......

I found out tha patience is a must to get her to go black. I tried numerous things to get her interested in black cock.
Me telling her about a co worker I know who is black fucking all the woman we worked with at the fatory got her really interested when i told her how big he was and how they all liked it and wanted more. I would tell her stories while fucking her and could feel her pussy contract and she would cum alot faster and more frequent for some great hot sex.
She even would comment how she could feel my cock swell more so when telling her stories about it while fucking her.
She started asking me to tell her stories about him when fucking her so I did which eventuallly ended up me getting a strap on black cock and fucking her with it and then showing her some porn movies with hung black guys fucking white woman.
she is not submitted yet but I know she will eventually.

Interesting thread Ace.

If she has facebook, setup a faked account to send her a add from a 'hot black guy' and see if she takes the bait.

It is something I used to test the water and pose questions and 'dilemmas' for her when I started getting her more into the swing of the idea which I first implanted and expanded using the subconscious stimulation.

Also used the black dildo angle

My main break through came when I made up a dream I'd had which I told her about as well as linking in the subconscious stimulation thread on here and It was this that sparked cuckolding ideas off in her head, where upon she then told me about dreams she was having after I had been using LW on her. ( https://www.cuckoldplace.com/10_77714_4.html )

Remember like others say 'small steps' /baby steps and use stories to emphasize the direction you'd like her to move toward.

Everything you do below the level of her critical radar will pay dividends as you move her towards the idea up until the point she gets off fantasizing under her own volition.

Use all the methods / techniques and suggestions you can.
Do this and she'll be done.
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Not to bring up an old thread but I thought some might be interested in the progress...

So it's been about 8 months since I last posted where I had purchased the 60 condoms and I did a quick count and thought I would post the results. We've used 26 condoms so far which means we've had sex roughly 3 times per month. Out of the original 60 listed below, we've used 5 multi-colored (yellow, orange, green, etc.) 4 purple and 17 black condoms.

This is a great sign in my opinion as our routine is always the same. I usually get my wife excited and wet with some foreplay. Then I get up and hand her the bag with the condoms while I go to the bathroom or lock the door. When I get back, she has picked out the color and I put the bag away.

At first she played it off like the color didn't matter and she would just grab whichever one but that soon stopped and now I hear her rustling through the bag like she's looking for a specific color. She has chosen a black condom the last 7 or 8 times in a row, even though there's obviously a lot more multi-colored ones in the bag. I have to add even the purple ones are fairly dark and without the lights on, give the impression of a dark/black shaft.

The sex has been great and way more intense since before we started back in December.

The question now is do i take it to the next level and send her a black dildo anonymously? Or would she be more likely to suspect it was me now that we've dabred with this taboo. We never speak of her color choices and I'm sure she might freak if I approached the topic with her.

Would love to hear your thoughts....
Ace

buy a expensive black one and tell her that it has been tested by (some big organisation) for the best dildo avaiable. or that it is the only 5 star on amazone or .. you know what i wanna say.

OR you get a cheap one and tell her it was an 2$ offer to try .... material, company product, new store. but there were only black ones.

i d prefer first suggestion.

I agree. Buy a high quality 100% silicone dildo. Two that come to mind are the captain silicone dildo (my wife's favorite) or any of the vixskin line. Of course when you give it to her you can tell her they were out of the other colors. Make sure it's bigger than you but not so big it will hurt her. You can also buy a smaller, cheaper dildo maybe one of those pink or purple jelly ones to include with your gift. It may divert her attention enough from the black one. In her mind, she'll likely be thinking about the black one though.
fender

Thanks for the comments but I'm nowhere near the point of giving her a dildo and her knowing it's from me. Again, she's very straight-laced. I've tried to ask her about her fantasies in the past but she won't talk (obviously very uncomfortable or embarrassed).

If I send her one, it would be in the mail with no return address. I think it would be interesting to see if she told me about it or if she keeps it hidden. Or maybe she'd just throw it out. Don't really know. Nothing ventured, nothing gained I guess.

Is no one else out there in the same situation where wife would shut down if you told her your fantasy?

Would like to hear how others tested the waters.

Thanks,
Ace

Only just read this thread. How about you buy her an innocent gift of an ankle bracelet - perhaps even one of the ones you can see advertised like this The hyperlink is visible to registered members only! with a 'Queen of Spades' symbol. You can give it to her as if you have no idea what the symbol means. If she does she may ask you and you can play the surprised husband! If she doesn't know, and wears it, then a few days later you can tell her you've just discovered what it means and then you have an opening to start a discussion with her. Of course, if she wears it anyway she may get a few looks, or approaches when you are out…. and you can play the innocent mistake card if you need to get out of it! Good luck!
jart

If you want plausible excuse, make up an imaginary online adult store offering discreet packaging.
No fake admirer ploy. Aim for more believable delivery mistake.
Eg. a brown box arrives from xyz group. Address it to another womans name and don't put any return details.
With no return details she'll have to open it. Make sure she knows you saw the box. Eg. you come inside and say delivery was left outside but find excuse to leave and let her open on her own. She's more likely to have a real good look if you're not there.

Put in a fake pickslip etc that says fake name, your address, paid by direct transfer. Etc.
Include a good quality large black dildo and smaller jelly approx your size, plus 'complimentary' lube, etc.

No way to return or find the fake woman or store. Ask later what was in box to see if she tells truth or spins a story. Tell her she may as well keep it and try it out. That night, get her in the mood and see if she'll try the small one, then when she's really horny, trade up to the big black. Tell her you enjoyed seeing her with it and go from there.

Just go by feel and be ready to adapt the story.

Try getting her to talk about her fantasies. Explore them with her. She may just come around.

P.S. When I got my wife her first toy, I had it hidden and ready to go. As she was in the throes of passion, while I was eating her out, I began to rub the head on her wet slit. She was surprised for like two seconds but she was in the moment. I told her that I'm going to fuck her with this today. I think she liked me taking control.

My advice after that first time is to put it away for a month or so. After the first one, let her have you. This will reassure her you got it for her and not for you. Then work it in slowly.

Now my wife has no problem asking for it...and she does so almost every time. So much so that she's beginning to loosen just a bit. After nearly 20 years of marriage, her pussy is finally getting broken in and I couldn't be happier
fender

We were with his wife in a sex shop, and she chose a lot of toys and clothes, but the main purchase, a black whip and cheny strap it, now she fucks me with it, and sometimes allows me to fuck her as she heads for the STAP all black

Hi,
Very interesting thread and some great results so far!
Our (my wife and I) first reaction was if you have asked her if she is interested in allowing another man to have her - regardless of his race. To be sure, black (in your case) is the ultimate goal, but first determine if she is interested in other men.
If she is, we would suggest you go to one of the many sites out there (won't go into suggestions as we don't want a moderator to get upset with us) and find singles who are available. Have HER select the guy who interests her the most and go from there.
Remember, it's her decision, it's her body that's being penetrated. She might surprise you, especially regarding your condom experiment. But ultimately, it's up to her.
Please keep all of us informed as to your progress and best of luck
R n T
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I realize this is an old thread but figured I would post an update in case anyone was interested...

My wife and I used up all the original batch of condoms and I re-ordered, this time only ordering purple (her favorite color) and black. I told her they didn't have the variety pack but had this two-color pack on sale. Now, it really doesn't matter which color she picks as they both look black in the dark.

Recently, we have been having sex like rabbits - 4 or 5 times a week. It seems both of us are in overdrive. I always try to make her have an orgasm and then go down on her. Recently instead of just laying there, she has started grabbing my head with her hands and pushing my face into her pussy. Hopefully, she is actually thinking about me eating her after her pussy been used. I think this is a great step.

Last week, I finally got the nerve to order her a dildo. I got the Mr. Marcus 9" realistic black dildo. It should be here in a day or two. I just have to figure out how to "give" it to her. I really like Little_T's advice above about a mistaken shipment (wrong name, right address) but she might leave it for me to open then.

Any other suggestions on how to take this to the next level? I've thought about buying a hidden camera and putting it in our bedroom to see if she uses it or not.

Ace