Husband asked me to try black

My husband has been asking me to relax with a black guy. I'm really surprised, but like, he seems totally serious about it.

A guy i chatted with on line told me about this site so I figured I'd check it out. Anyhow, are there any women considering doing this or have done it? What can u tell me.

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Lise
Lisa

is your husband's penis a little smaller than most?

No, he's decent-sized.
Lisa

interesting, does he want someone bigger, or just someone else?

When i ask him why he says he "just thinks it would be hot to watch u make it with a black guy"
Lisa

I see. Well would you consider doing it?

I don't know what to do? I mean, like, i'm afraid if i do it will mess up our marriage, but then its like if he's asking me to its already messed up.

I don't know?
Lisa

While I haven't done it, I think it can be done. I think it's a fantasy, that, if you do in a safe manner (emotionally and physically), can be alright. I don't think your marriage is messed up because he has a fantasy...it's only sexual and he's being open with you.

you sound like a nice girl and permister but this forum is probably not the right place to discuss this really.

alot of guys are on here just to wank and are rude,

you really should do it only if you have any desire to,
like go on a vacation,nice room nice hotel meet someone on line who is classy,friendly ,make it fun for you like atrip to sandals or a swingers resort.

dont just do it for him though,you will regret it.it should be your fantasy too

good luck

you are in a bind arnt you?
good advice above but this forum can be a place to start heading out of the mess not so much to push you in this or that direction... but you both just may see a few avenues that you coud travl down together and grow with greater understanding
i dont think any simple answer is going to help you...this is a journey of self discovery amongst all else.
i will say this one thing..... dont do any thing untl you know what you are doing... good luck

Good advice here. Have you been with other guys or were you a virgin when you met your husband? Do you ever fantasise during lovemaking about being with another guy? I admitted to my wife in bed that I fantasised about her having sex with another man and she liked it. We pretended her dildo was someone else and both got of on the idea. Eventually, after about 2 years of encouragement, persuasion and a couple of near-misses, she did actually end up in bed with a guy who been chatting her up. Her side of our fantasy involved it being a much younger guy, and sure enough, this guy was only 23 compared with her being 35 and me 41. He fucked her well - 3 times in just one evening. He enjoyed having a married woman, she enjoyed having a different, young penis in her for the first time in 12 years and I loved her coming home and telling me all about it. Unlike your husband, I was not desperate to watch her, but content to know it was happening elsewhere.

That said, unlike some couples here, it did not open up the floodgates for her to relax with lots of other guys. I wasn't jealous of this guy fucking my wife, but the experience left me feeling a bit inadequate and insecure, worried that he was better than me, bigger than me and she might prefer him. She reassured me that I would always be her number 1, but my reaction put her off doing it again, even when the guy contacted her later hoping to fuck her again. In hindsight, I wish I had handled it better. Maybe then she would have seen him again. I would liked them to have had more than a one night stand - I rather liked the prospect of them having an affair for a few weeks, so they could really get used to one another in bed. My wife felt he was somewhat inexperienced in bed and thought she would be able to teach him a few things!

Well, that's my experience. As people have already said, don't do anything you don't want to. And if you do want to try another guy, talk to your husband to agree ground rules and boundaries. Hope this helps.
Peter C

My wife has done it and I love her very much. There are a lot of emotional hangups to get past to be able to enjoy sex for fun not love. Sounds like you aren't ready yet and need to do some serious talking first. Communication is the key.

Lisa,
I told my wife the same thing about 7 years ago. After some coaxing she finally did it! We both loved the experience, first couple of times felt awkward, but that feeling subsided after that. My wife and i love each other very much and we both know that one day when we're old and grey we'll look back together and crack a big smile!!! We have no regrets!!
marc-br549

Well Lisa if in fact you are lisa or your lisa's husband lol. This is not the forum to find out about your husbands fantasies. In fact I have been in the culture for numerous yrs and find it hard to believe the story. Now of course if you tell me all the planets have aligned themselves and the sea has parted well thats another story. Good luck buddy in your quest.

Sincerly Marcus

This pervert suggests that you test him. Tell him he can no longer put his prick up your cunt, because it's reserved for your black bull. Do this before you get a bull. You will soon see if he's sincere and, if he is, you can take total control over what level of physical sex you have with your husband or anyone else.

Nice you FIRST ask whether it can harm your couple. I suppose it can, but I've seen many real people into this, and it's been a pleasure, provided it doesn't lead to any "black master" bullcuckolds brownie.

I'm divorced myself, but this aspect of our marriage (she WOULD have sex with black guys) was perfect.

Now he says "would be great to watch"...would be better if hubby was more thinking of YOU having fun than thinking of HIS watching...

Now...are you aroused by the idea ? Is the prospect of enjoying a black man something that makes you want it to happen ?
Fanatique de l'infidelite feminine

you should do this...

thanks for all the advice. To Mark, this is Lisa.

I'm gonna take this slow. I know he wants me to b/c he brought it up again today. I told him that I'm considering doing it, but that i'm still so nervous. He keeps tleling me how much he loves me and that he'll still love me afterwards. Haven't any of you felt differentely? You all have stronger feelings in a positive manner and nothing negative?
Lisa

well....?my bigerest fear is that she will one day no longer love ant trust me and there will only be loathing...... this happens in many 'normal' relationships aswel and i hope and pray that it will never ever happen to me
why does it have to be a black man?....this question alone takes you down many different roads
maybe there is a way to work out these isues with out actually looking for a conclusive followthruogh?
perhaps a good beginning....hey at least your husband is honest with you and i am sure that he is greatfull for your entertaining the thought

same advice as others: you should consider doing it but only if you would like too. Do you fantasize about BBC? Would you like to try one? If the answers are no, you may not be ready. If the answers are yes, here is the opportunity to improve your sex life. Speak with your husband and let him know your fear of loosing your marriage. Make sure that he is ready too: a lot of husbands fantasize about it but would feel jealous when time comes to really do it. Do you have any friend (Girls) that could go out with you and give you advice too?
New at this

Its pretty late here. Husband brought it up again tonight. He said that I should chat with black guys on line so that I can feel more comfortable about it
Lisa

You could ask your husband to take some sexy pics of you and post them, either here or other sites (ZOIG). First this will give you and husband some great time! once posted, you could then see comments and pics from BBC looking at your pics. If you like the comments and their pics, you can then go online with them and if it works...then even further....what do you think? ...honey...is it you?
New at this

My wife and I have been chatting and looking at pictures. She even got up the nerve and the BBC was a no show. Please feel free to check her out in our post on this site. One suggestion is to take some pictures of you and post them, see how you feel. Go and get a large black dildo and a few movies and see if you pussy gets wet. My wife took a little while, but now when she looks at the uncut cocks that want to expode in her she comes in seconds. email us we are a [email protected] we can chat and I can send a few shots for fun.

You look really cute!

You can feel it out by telling him about your past lovers and seeing how excited you both get. You can also read stories online or just make up whatever seems fun at the time!

You can also get a realistic Black dildo off amazon and make sure you pick it out so he doesn't get anything too big to start. You should still make him pay for it though.

Remember he's asking you, so you can make him do things you want to make him earn it.

My 2 cents:

I think you should explain all the down sides to him, and see if he still really wants it - tell him that maybe you won't want to have sex with him again after having sex with a black guy because you'll enjoy the black man more than him. It's a possibility. It's possible that once you feel an enormous cock inside you he won't satisfy you anymore. Ask him if he's ready to know he doesn't satisfy you sexually anymore. Ask him if he is ready to give up sex and be turned into a cuckold for real. If he still wants it, deny him sex for a few months, teasing him about his small cock.
All these steps are reversible - fucking another man isn't.
And then if he's still into it, he probably really wants it, so you should go for it.

Be carefull. Make sure this is what you BOTH really want. It can be the most profound experience of your life, but it could also signal a deteriorating marriage. Take time and go slowly.

Try experimenting at first. Perhaps cyber, and then try a local swing club. You don't have to do anything. The first rule among swingers is that anyone can always say no at anytime. That includes you.
All universal moral principles are idle fancies.
- Marquis de Sade

Ask your hubby if he couls really deal with watching you like this? This my wife and her first black lover.
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The black guy you met isn't very cool to try and disrespect your husband like that. Find a guy who will include you both instead of a jerk who is just trying to get his game on and nothing else.



Stop being racist, Vanilla. She should fuck him.

lisaissa

I agree. Don't go behind your husband's back...

STFU up Habib. She should not do anything she doesn't want to do or anything to disrespect her husband just because it gets your tiny dick hard to think she might.