Is A Handjob Enough to Start?

I posted this in a forum on another site and never got any answers from any black bulls, only a couple of women and a gay guy. While I appreciate their - and anyone else's input - I'm really looking for some thoughts from the black guys on this forum.

Here's the deal: My girlfriend has always had a thing for the black boys, but has never acted on it. We role play on a regular basis, using a 9 inch black cock called "Black Magic" that absolutely drives her over the edge. We talk about her being with a black man for real - I want to help her to live out her fantasies as she has helped me to live out a number of mine - but she is still hesitant. She seems to really like the idea, but is scared about being with someone she doesn't know well.

I brought up the idea of me finding her "type" of guy and setting something up where we could meet him, go back to our room, and she could give him a handjob. If she liked what she saw and was enjoying herself- and I think she would - she could then go as far as she wanted.

What do you think? Is this worthwhile? Does it make sense? Would a black man go for a hand job, with the possibility of more?

As for a description of her: she's blonde, 41 years old, five foot two, very nice figure, 34 C with perfectly shaped ass, and in very good shape (runs at least 3 miles every day). She is submissive to me (loves to be spanked hard) and enjoys sex, including oral and anal. I've included some pictures to give everyone a better idea of what she looks like. Sorry about the quality, but they were taken with a camera phone.

A handjob from a white woman is just not enough for a brutha.

No way.

Sorry.

She should be on her knees serving!

Habib,

That's where I hope she ends up, but the point is to get her there. Given the choice in the right environment, I think she will... and then some. Thanks for your input.

Most bruthas I know would accept a handjob from a white woman but ONLY if there was more after that.

Thanks, Vanilla_Thrilla. I appreciate your input. I'm pretty sure that we'll be moving down this road in the next couple of months. We've got a trip planned in November that might present a great opportunity.

habib is a troll, wolfercat.

What you are describing is EXACTLY how my wife and I tested the waters and started doing it. We both weren't sure if this was just a fantasy for us and whether the reality of it would go ok so we decided on just finding a black guy to give a massage and hand job to.

OF COURSE, you can find a black guy to just give a hand job to. They will be happy to come over and lay back and get a nice handjob, who wouldn't? Have her wear something sexy and agree to just a hand job the first time, NO MORE. No matter what, just give a hand job. That will settle things down and make everyone comfortable.

Put an ad on Craig's List or something and meet a few black guys. You pretty much stay out of it. When you find one you like, have him come over right then and there from the meeting and you sit in the corner on the floor, stay out of the way, and she gives him a hand job.

Then when he leaves, you can discuss your feelings over the next few days and see how it went. If it's still ok, then have him come over for a blow job. If that's ok, the next time, have them fuck.

That's exactly how we did it and I recommend it. Take it slowly, don't rush, do baby steps to get there and discuss and communicate often.

If you do that, everything will go fine.

I watch my wife do it about once a month now and it's a huge turn on.

Great insight, Jamesriske. It's geat to hear that someone else did it that way and it worked out alright. We do plan to take it very slowly and I want to make sure she's comfortable all the way down the line. Everything else between us is too great to fuck it up by moving too fast on something like this.

Vanilla, if we get to Ohio anytime, we'll keep you in mind.

wolfercat,

I think what I can add is that we would agree to how far it would go beforehand. In other words, we didn't leave the door open to anything more than just a hand job the first time. That was it no matter what. Also, I stayed out of the way and even during the public meeting, I tried not to talk much and did not sit between them. And if you do go home, you should stay out of the way and not talk or interfere.

This is what worked for us. I'm not saying that it's the only way or that I'm an expert, I'm just saying what worked for us.

You see, if you do the handjob first and it turns out that you feel jealous or angry, it's just a handjob and you can stop the games after that and it's not that big a deal. Just a handjob. BUT if you're turned on by it and so is she, you can then go to the next step. Have her suck it a little next time and finish him with a handjob. etc. etc.

You get the idea.

Have fun, my friend. Take it slow and never forget that your marriage and relationship come first.

Keep us informed.