it was his idea. now it's not.

he talked me into the whole aff thing and that was a diversion. he was always there for safety and such. i had dated black guys in the past, so i didn't get the turn-on for him.

after i started dating some of these guys, playing during the date and finding a few randomly, like the grocery store, he was no longer involved. i tried to stop because it seemed like it would backfire at any moment.

it hasn't backfired though. he's still excited by it. the worst part for him is that i'm not really going to be the same wife again. there's the excitement, the skin, etc., but mostly i'm just not into him anymore. he's like a good friend. and it's sad, but he seems ok with that.

happened to you, ladies?

thx,
s