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I am a newlywed and new to this Cuckold world. Apparently, my husband digs this kind of thing, but I never knew before we got married. I knew he got off on porn and whatnot but I didn't know this offense/domination world. Since we've been married he has contacted a dominatrix and I don't really know what's gone on since. He claims nothing, but am I to be so naive? I don't judge your world, and I'm willing to learn, and he won't talk to me about it. So, I put this out there in hopes that one of you tell me what my husband won't. He claims he can't tell me because I'm his wife, and I shouldn't be subjected to this "dirty stuff". Honestly, I think I would like it, but he doesn't give me a chance. My husband and I have sex maybe once a month. Is he nuts that I wouldn't love a lifestyle where I get fucked by large men, and by large I don't nessasarily mean stature. I just want to know why I'm not enough and he needs other women to do his biding. I want to be his everything, yet he has another women who will be the dirty girl. I know I'm the good girl and the wife, but can't I be dirty too? I'm cute and I'm able, but I'm the wife. But I can fuck with the best of them. Anyone with some words of advice? I want to understand, I want to join you all in this alleged "dirty world".... Sounds fun to me.... I fear my marriage maybe on the line...

Dominatrix and you say she is subjected to this dirty stuff. It's hard to say what's going on there because in this cuckold lifestyle, yes the woman (the wife or often called a hot wife) may be considered by her hubby as a Dominatrix that humiliates him and enjoys other men as she does it. When you say he's contacted a Dominatrix but, he's married to you, that's a different story. As a hot wife the reamister you would have for dominating him is because, he's your husband....you're married to him and he would like this and at the same time big, hung other men sounds good to you, you love him, he loves you....all seems to work out well. Everyone gets to have their cake and eat it too (or should I say pie, lol). In the other case, it's a lot less likely to be that way. A married man visiting a Dominatrix is almost always going to be dominated by her for money because, what other reamister would she have for doing that. She can have all the big, hung men she wants if she wanted to and without having to bother with him being there. If she's a Dominatrix he's not seeing her really to have sex with her, most won't even allow it in any form. It's usually more about her physically and verbally a***ing him. She may consider sex to mean anything where she's going to be pleasing him either orally or letting him penetrate her vag/anally so, she might consider anything else more about humiliating/dominating him and allow it. Like having him please her orally or wearing a strap-on and having him suck it and/or use it on him anally. A lot of the times it's just whips and chains though and at best just letting jerk off at the end to release. Since there's money involved and she wants him as a regular, the bottom line is she's going to give him what he wants some how or not going to be interested in coming back. That's what makes it all so fake because in the end it's about her giving him what he wants and she gets what she wants, the money for doing it. When he's truly sub and her Dom, what he is suppose to want, is what ever she wants, what ever pleases her and makes her happy is suppose to please him at the same time (and should if it's all real). In her permisteral life it very often she like other women usually as submissives but, live-in (no money involved). It's hard to understand exactly what he sees her for. There's also a thing about how he was raised about what a wife (and lady of his youngren) is, which would mean nothing nasty/kinky at all. That's something he would probably view you as being if his mom and dad were kind of the old school type, often born in another country (usually European or Latin) and moved here.

Because we're messed up that way!

it sounds to me like you need to in no uncertain terms, tell your (hubby) that if he can see a dom. then that you will be seeing other big cocked, men as well and let him know that that he will not be fucking you any more.without first eatting cream pie and buy him a few pair of panties to wear in front of your new lovers trust me he is begging your for this treatment.

You definitely should go out and find some BBC to fuck. Get some stud to make you feel better. My wife has been in a great mood ever since she's been getting the deep dicking she desires. Plus, if he likes this site he probably would like it.

Of course, the easy jerk-off answer is to run out and cuckold him.

I suspect that he isn't comfortable with his own desires/feelings..and to go too far too fast might just ad to his turmoil. Instead, how about slowly bringing in talk/fantasies while in bed...starting with the mild....see if you can get him to open up...these things might be hard for him to admit to himself. And much harder to admit to you.

In my own case, it took me some time to become comfortable enough with my twisted fantasies to reveal them to my Princess. But since doing so, life has been grand.

Building intimacy and trust is hard enough. It will be even harder for you if it is a one-way street. Be patient. Be playful. Be open. Be persistent. I'm sure you will find an accomodation.

Best of luck

You could do all your research on dominatrix, or even get one yourself, and just learn the tricks of the trade. Or like someone else suggested, go get yourself a lover, and shove it in his face. Have you told him you don't want him to be with this girl, or have you given the go ahead? It does take time sometimes, and you should feel good he thinks enough of you that he doesn't want to push what he feels as dirty on you. But if you think you would enjoy it, then go for it. Maybe you could tag along?

Thanks for all the comments. I'm really trying to understand what's going on. I feel my marriage is failing and my husband doesn't want me anymore, he just wants the Dom. He's obessed with her. He contacts her several times a day and refuses to tell me he is, when I know he is. Its the lies that get me, not the acts. I wish he would share with me, I think our lives would be grand also. I'm not sure what to do. He's so angry when I talk about, and not even about him, about me doing the dominatrix thing. I think I would enjoy it, and I think that has completely turned him against me. I don't know. God bless all of you, this site is awesome. I love your answers and I love the other posts. I really think I would like it and I have no husband who will share it with me. I don't want to cheat on him, I just want him happy. Isn't that a bitch.