Our Journey....Femdom/cuckold/chastity lifestyle....

Prompted by Lisalovesbig.......thanks for the shove, been meaning to do this for a long time now...

I met T 15 years and a few months ago, I joined the gymnasium he owned at the time, he was then and still is to this day a hunk of a man, he was a competative bodybuilder 6'2" shoulder length hair in a ponytail and muscles in his spit, his competition weight was 257 pounds at very very low body fat, 7 inches and thick as I was to discover to my delight but we'll come to that a little later......

I at the time was a hostess for a well known airline so only in the country for a few days a month (10 on average)...

What followed was a year of sheer frustration, I for my part made the assumption that as a bodybuilder he'd be into slim fit girls, there were certainly a large proportion of those in there training every time I visited, I thought he was unobtainable, whilst I was far from obese I did join the gym to lose weight and tone up, he also had a GF who he'd been living with some 5 years.....
I wanted him so bad it hurt and I eventually stopped going....

T unbeknown to me was smitten with me, doesn't like skinny ladies at all, fortunately me being short, dark haired and curvy I'm his ideal....

As I said he did become an obsession, a year of flirting and visiting the gym dolled up to the nines had got me nowhere and I stopped going....

He phoned me and we went for lunch, I managed to blurt out my true feelings on the drive home, this near caused him to crash the car, that day became the day we started to see each other, to this day we refer to it as car crash day rather than our anniversary......

Just for those that are wondering, I didn't steal him from his long term GF (though I would not have hesitated to do so for one minute) in the time I'd stopped going to the gym they had amicably parted company(sometimes life is kind) I was 26, T 31.......

Our Pasts

T had been in one 7 year relationship and one 5 year relationship and had worked a night club door for many years so in volume and experience he was way ahead of me, he'd also been involved with several 3'somes over the years...

Me...I'd not been so lucky...as a 16/17 year old office junior I got suckered into a fling with a married guy, he took my virginity and as more experience came my way I realise now he wasn't a good lover, my first proper relationship was with a guy I met on holiday, we eventually moved in together and it lasted 2 to 3 years, He was huge, I never measured it but I think around 10 inches and very thick, I'd like to meet him again now lol, unfortunately he didn't know how to use it at all and sex became something to be avoided and when it couldn't be avoided was a painful experience...... I had a short relationship with another guy after this and he was very small, but a lovely man, in amongst it all I tried 3 one night stand all pretty unsuccesful....so I met T at age 26 and had never orgasmed with a man......

I was in and out of the country a lot with my job and also living at home with my parents, T was still living with his ex whilst they sorted out finances, accomodation for her and all the other things that need to be done when a long term relationship comes to an end, she knew of me and had a new BF herself, however this left us with nowhere to go, as it transpire I think this was a good thing as it caused us to do lots of getting to know each other, talking, holding hands, snogging, a good old fashioned courtship......

Eventually after several months the frustration got too much and on one of my trips home I booked a Hotel....

WOW I discovered what it was to be made love to, he kissed and licked my body all over, sucked my toes and confessed his foot fetish, brought me to orgasm with his tongue (many times) was a gentle lover building up slowly to slamming in and out of me and gave me many orgasms this way too....he tongued my ass, I thought he made a mistake the first time but didn't say anything as I liked it, I'd never experienced that before, but it was no mistake he went back to it many times, 12 hours our lovemaking lasted, I was exhausted......at long last I had discovered a real man, I flew on cloud nine from that day on and discovered my sexuality, I hadn't realised I had a high sex drive, maybe I didn't have but I did from that day on.....

Life was good and a few months passed he eventually sorted out his finances, sold the business I left the airline with a nice payout and we bought a house together and moved in.....

We still talked a lot, probably habit and our pasts were talked about a lot, T felt a little guilt that he'd had so much experience and variety and I had in effect only had good sex with him.....he introduced me to a couple he was friends with who were swingers and we talked with them, they explained what they got from it, it was a little strange to me at the time but I couldn't deny that they were without doubt a very close and very in love couple.....we talked about swinging...lots we talked about swinging....I must admit the thought of two men together with me the centre of attention was a very appealing thought but the thought of T with another woman horrified me.......

I didn't know at the time what submissive was or meant sexually but looking back T was from day one submissive to me, he would sit and rub my feet for hours every night as we watched TV, he painted my toenails for me twice a week, I liked it and knew it made him happy and satisfied his foot fetish so went along with it, he alway ensured I orgasmed several times before he came himself and often he'd make love to me for a couple of hours using his mouth and fingers and take nothing from it himself other than the pleasure of pleasuring me, I'd reach for him to take care of him but he'd say no no just enjoy yourself.......he told me he loved me 10 plus times a day (still does) touched me every time we passed, complimented me all the time.....he was and is just perfect...

Eventually we got back to talking of swinging, I told him that I couldn't bear the thought of seeing him make love to another woman, he laughed and said that he wasn't interested in another woman and was happy to find a man and he and the man could make love to me together, he went on and explained that he'd like to find a man with a big cock and his reamisters were two fold, 1 that it would prove to me that a big cock didn't have to be painful, his logic was that as he had 7 inches and knew how to use it then if we found a man that was larger and also knew how to use it then it could only be better, 2 He confessed that the thought of seeing me with a really big cock inside me turned him on.....I guess this was the start of our relationship as it is today.....

We talked a lot about it and should we involve someone we knew or go to a party or wait till the opportunity arose, eventually we joined a swingers club that had a magazine and a small website (remember those dial up days)...after the usual batch of timewasters we eventually met a guy called Rick, he was 9 inches and very very thick, he was married so could only do daytimes, he came for a day and between himself and T they took me to places I'd never been before, I'd never imagined how good it would feel to be fucked whilst having your clit licked, or to be licked to orgasm whilst passionately kissing another man....It's an experience I'll never forget a little like losing your virginity again (though first time round for me that wasn't fireworks) I ended up in tears several times that day not out of pain but out of sheer emotion and sexual gratification......

The down side if there was one was that I was worried before that it would alter T's view of me, and after too, it really was quite a concern....but if anything T was more loving after than before, it was almost like he was proud of me, I came to realise that he'd loved it as much as I did to the extent that we saw Rick 3 or 4 times a month for the next year or so.....he became part of our sex life when he wasn't there verbally, If I was riding T's cock he'd say bet you'd like to be sucking Rick now too....things like that, nothing just clicked into place but I realised that when I mentioned anything to do with Rick being bigger than T it excited him....so eventually the talk didn't become offense as such but it swayed to Ricks favour ie:- T: bet you'd like to be sucking Rick now....Me: No I'd like to be fucking Rick and sucking you, his cocks so much bigger it fills me better.....I guess at this point though not realising it at the time our lifestyle was starting to form.....

Eventually the relationship with Rick came to an end his work took him too far away and though we saw him a few times once he'd moved it eventually petered out....

For a year or so after Rick it was just the two of us though he still featured verbally in our sex life, I think we both missed the excitement and eventually we talked of finding someone else, we decided to try a party as there was one local to us....

This really was an eyeopener for us, the party was quite a large affair 400ish people but was split between Swingers and BDSM a large dungeon and a large swinging room with a bar/social area between the two....it was a great night and we went back many times....I discovered that I couldn't just have sex with a man because he was available and had a big cock so I didn't have sex at any of the nights though I did meet a couple of men there that I later had sex with at home once I'd got to know them and become friendly with them, but much more importantly we both discovered we liked dressing up in fetish gear and being an open minded adventurous couple it wasn't long before we started to experiment with Dom/Sub role play....

It wasn't long from there that we found that we both prefered it if I played Domme and T my slave, infact we loved it this way, we also became friendly with a couple similar to ourselves and I guess though it was subconcious the lady mentored me to some extend, taught me to use a flogger and a cane....another lady years later taught me to use a whip.....we stayed as what I would deem "PLAYERS" for several years just role plaing 3 or 4 times a month and the rest of the time being just the normal Mel and T.....I had a couple of short term lovers and we continued our 3'some play aswell.....

In amongst our DS play we started to experiment with chastity, just leather in those days, and moved on to the CB range too, it was only to start with short term ie 5/6 hours leading onto a day or two....what this did though was change the relationship when I met my next regular lover Ray...it also took us to another level with our DS play moving it on from a little role play to play sessions lasting several days....

We'd started a business and had High street shops Ray was a baker who owned the bakery opposite our shop...married again (yes I do get an extra buzz out of stealing another womans man away for a few hours) obviously there are advantages and disadvantages to having a married man as a lover, the obvious advantage being they don't tend to get clingy and needy like a single guy, the disadvantage being the time they can get away from the wife for a few hours is limited....

So it came to be that Ray was available when T and I were in one of our several day DS games and he was locked in chastity.....I saw Ray alone on a date, we went to his cabin cruiser after and made love for several hours, he went home to his wife and I went home to T...

The first thing I did when I got home was boss T about and berate him for having a tiny cock and making me take a lover to satisfy myself, I then gave him a severe caning for his short fallings, after which I sat on his face and had him give me several orgasms.....he then ran my bath, massaged me before I got in it and when in it he washed me and then dried me, I left him in his chastity for a further 3 days after this and kept up the bitchy attitude and small cock offense, aswell as demanding oral orgasms every day......this really was a turning point for us, lots of firsts, first time I saw a lover alone, the first time I directly humiliated him and his cock, and the longerst period of time he stayed in the device.....the most severe I'd ever beaten him...

As has always remained constant in our relationship we talked, and talked and talked some more....he expressed how he felt, I expressed my guilt but also my pleasure.....I confessed that I'd come to realise I was a sadist, inflicting pain turns me on, I'd been toying with it in my mind for some time trying to reamister it out, feeling guilt, feeling abnormal....eventually I reamistered with myself and just came to accept it, I like it, it turns me on, it makes me wetter than any other activity....

For T he loved the power exchange, loved that I had control of his cock, liked the Domme me and confessed he'd happily live that way forever as though he wasn't having any sex at the same time he felt he was having sex 24/7 (his description not mine) he felt I was in his head which led him to feel totallyt satisfied and happier than he'd ever been.....

looking forward to next installment...especially having just commenced our journey...

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It didn't happen over night but today we live 24/7 as Mistress/slave...have done about 7 years now....

T is in permanent chastity, a full steel belt, I supervise him every morning, he bathes in my used bath water and I remove the belt, allow him to shave and grease himself up then it goes straight back on...I take him out once every two weeks and either milk him using a Nexus glide or more often than not restrain him and give him a ruined orgasm....twice a year I give him a full day out of the belt and he is allowed to make love to me as much as he likes (and boy does he)

I control him and maintain the 24/7 Mistress/slave dynamic with ritual....every morning he is up before me and prepares my breakfast...when I awake he makes me tea then goes off to run my bath, he pops the bottle of baby lotion in the bath ready for my morning massage.....after I've had my breakfast I allow him to worship my ass for 10 minutes then he must massage me, he checks the bath temperature is right and washes my back.....I shout when I'm done and he comes and dries me before helping me get dressed.......this is when I supervise the removal of the belt and of course the re locking....

T works from home so he does the housework every morning before going to the workshop, dusting, polishing any ironing and laundry that needs doing, aswell as washing the bath out and making the bed.....

When I return from work my bath is always run, my tea ready and the massage lotion warming, I again allow him to worship my ass for 10 minutes before recieving my massage and being bathed and dried...

At all times behind closed doors he must address me as Ma'am, I call him stubblet a reference to his small cock or slave...I never say please or thank you to him, just snap my fingers and demand whatever it is I want, if we go out socially we slip into Mel'n'T mode very easily but revert back immediately we get home.....

He sits at my feet in the evenings and rubs them for me, most nights I'll demand oral, I'll occasionally play with him using floggers and light toy's just as a prelude to my orgasms, but mostly I'll just give little corrections as we go like a hefty slap to his face if he displeases me, every two weeks I give him a severe caning, this is just a maintainence beating to remind him of his place and keep him on his toes...it also satisfies the sadist in me, I'd love to do it more often but the beatings are severe enough that it takes two weeks to heal....

He is free to tell me he loves me at any time and also to show his affection with kisses to my forehead, cheek or feet, I often still tell him I love him, every day infact, just now I do it in a different way, I'll have him drop to his knees and instruct him to kiss my feet, whilst he's doing it I'll say "Ma'am loves you slave you do know that don't you".....

Over and above all this, should the need arise to discuss something serious then he just says Ma'am may I be T for a few minutes....I always say yes, we discuss and resolve whatever it is and then revert back.....

I have another regular lover Kieran, my biggest boy yet at 11 inches and thick, he's a very good lover, very considerate, I've been seeing him about 18 months now and yes he's another married man....I sometimes allow T to watch, or make him go in another room and listen, sometimes because I'm selfish I have T join us, he remains in chastity but does the nice bits like licking my clit as I'm being fucked or just holding my hand, that type of thing......

I guess to some this sort of relationship must seem at best abusive, cruel, or pure fantasy.....for us it works, T is happy, he tells me all the time he is happy, If he doesn't say it for a few days I ask him, he thanks me all the time and tells me he's living his dream.......I'm happy too, I couldn't be happier, I have the best of all worlds.....T is my husband, my best friend, my lover, my slave, my soul mate, he completes me and makes me whole........just to demonstrate to you there is balance believe me if ever T is ill our lifestyle stops and I cluck over him like a lady hen, he's my boy and I love him with all of me


Funny how things change in 15 years I've gone from an inexperienced girl who thought there was something wrong with her sexually to a sadistic,dominatrix, cuckoldress size queen.....


Well thats our journey to date in brief, feel free to ask any questions and hopefully it's been an enjoyable read and not offended anyone....

Mel x x

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That bad huh?

Mel x

Thanks for a very genuine account of how your relationship has developed. How do you go about finding lovers? Is T involved in this and how does he deal with jealousy?

Really enjoyed your history.

Thanks

T

We've found lovers various ways, Ray for example (the Baker) was mutual attraction he would pop in my shop when T was out and flirt, chat me up, quite funny when I told him that I relayed every conversation we had to T, it took him a while to get his head round that one, eventually T spoke to him and assured him it was ok...

My current lover we met through a swingers site, we've found most of the guys on swingers sites tend to be married guys chancing their arm....when we advertise we make it clear that there'll be a few meets before anything happens, and in those meets whilst we don't include the guy in our lifestyle(the Femdom side I mean), we do make him aware of it.....

Other guys I've met through work or at parties, I do tend to prefer ongoing relationships rather than short term so there have only been 7 lovers in out 15 years together.....

Jealousy is all part of it for T, he describes it to me as...he has every emotion going through his body in huge waves one after the other good and bad, that there's no other feeling like it and that he'd not want to be without it, so in that respect it's not an issue....if ever there was a problem with a guy I was seeing T would be my priority always...

If we meet Lovers through swinging sites then T places the adverts and deals with the replies, basically narrows the 300 plus email you get off an advert down to a final 10 then I select who I'd like to meet, he always comes with me to meets and infact I'd not consider meeting a lover alone till I knew him.....

Obviously if and when it's been a guy I've met through work the relationship develops over time but T is aware from the minute I meet someone who takes my fancy....

Mel x

Glad I could inspire someone else to write a story that had substance, not just dirty words-lol.

Your story and mine illustrate how two couples can carry out the cuckold lifestyle in completely different, but successful ways.

As someone who does not live the 24/7 lifestyle I have always had a question for those who do. Has your "love" changed for each other? With my husband and I, the cuckold thing is purely sexual and for the most part we are the typical couple. But I wonder if you live it 24/7 how you maintain (or do you) an equal partnership/love thing? Maybe it's no longer equal, or maybe the love relationship has changed. I would be curious to here more on this. It is not something that would work for me at all, but I am always intrigued by the insight of others.

I don't know how he handles it... Think it would really get to me. He must really want to put your needs before his own.

Does disciplining him excite you and is this something that only evolved through your relationship with T or was it always there (in your make up)? I'm not being nosey, I am just fascinated. I am also of the opinion that you are for real unlike many of the people that post on this site.

Cheers

T

I'll do my best to answer that, I feel it's only changed as in it's stronger, I'll go at it 3 ways to try and explain better...

Chastity that is pretty much 24/7 365, over the years we have experimented with having him out of it for periods of time, he tells me and I believe him he's happiest in it....making your partner happy is what a relationship and love is all about...for me anyway

Femdom that part of our relationship is also pretty much 24/7 but having read the last section I wrote I've probably given the impression that I come home from work dress in leather and bark orders all night which is not the case at all (well there are many nights but far from all nights) we still talk about the day, I'm still affectionate to him with hugs and kisses the only difference is he says Ma'am at the end of every sentence and I refer to him as slave..it's also about reading moods, so I'm easy on him if he's tired or grouchy for some reamister...he also reads mine and acts accordingly...

Cuckolding thats really just a part of our lifestyle rather than a lifestyle of it's own, there have been long periods of just him and me, and the amount of time I spend with lovers is dependent on each relationship, as an example my current lover I only see twice a month, thats all we can manage with his/mine and his wife's work schedules....

I feel i've not explained it very well but assure you we're very happy together

It's something we discovered by accident, I was quite shocked by it myself initially infact it took a long time for me to stop analizing it and just accept that I'm a sadist and enjoy inflicting pain....

Does it excite me? God yes immensly!

Nice ! But...only one lover at a time ? Wouldn't it more cruel if you were available to the random (attractive) guy, and not him ?
Fanatique de l'infidelite feminine

I would like to thank you for sharing your livestyle with us. I had to come back and read it in segments because I got busy so I couldn't comment till now. I also believe your story is real unlike many others (not that I don't enjoy the others mind you).

I can honestly say there are aspects of your life that I envy your husband for. There are others that would be to much even for a submissive like me. I am curious about something and would like to ask a question, but before I ask feel the need to explain something. I am a very submissive permister by nature. I care about pleasing my partner more than I believe many others seem to. I have a facination with being disciplined, yet never have been mostly because my previous partners get scared before I feel comfortable discussing it with them. So here's my questions... How did it start in your marraige? I know you stated you had issues dealing with the guilt but you were able to rationalize and accept it (and it works in your relationship). How does your husband feel about the discipline? Does he accept it because he knows it pleases you, or does he receive pleasure from it too?

Thanks again.

Wow, just finished it all, and glad I arrived late because your notes filled in so many gaps for me. I think so many fantasies start here because men want their wives to somehow turn into supersluts of some kind and they don't know how to ask / do it themselves. It's too big a risk, particularly if they are submissive. They thus externalise the task to the superstud who magically converts the wife. Trouble is, so the stories go, the wife doesn't want to swap back. The man is stuck with the woman of his dreams, but he can't have her ...
Your story though has, like Lisalovesbig, a different angle. A start where truth initially provides the spark and where both your relationships grow, expand and change until you must hardly recognise the start sometimes. So many must start and grow apart in this process, and that is sad, given the hidden desires of so many. How wonderful then, to find in just a few days, not one but two completely uplifting stories from the cuckold world.
Thank you so much for sharing this Essentiauk, it was a real pleasure to read it.

Fascinating Mel...thanks for the story of your journey.
In many ways very similar to ours, although not to the same extent...although we have only been going for a very short period of time. One thing that seems to be very similar between you and my Goddess is that you both enjoy the control and pain to your partners, but not necessarily with your lovers (I presume that's how it is with you also?).
She also can't and won't have sex with a man just because he is good looking or has a big cock (although they help her along the way!), but has to have some connection, usually at an intellectual level - able to talk, and be seduced...
My sexy woman loves to dominate me and at times she says that it almost scares her the degree she likes to control me and while we aren't deeply into it, also humiliate me. We don't try to analyse it much either, and just enjoy it for what it is. We think that we are very fortunate to have each other in that we 'fit' together well in this way.

and, your following description is just so much like us, it's scary!

I didn't know at the time what submissive was or meant sexually but looking back T was from day one submissive to me, he would sit and rub my feet for hours every night as we watched TV, he painted my toenails for me twice a week, I liked it and knew it made him happy and satisfied his foot fetish so went along with it, he alway ensured I orgasmed several times before he came himself and often he'd make love to me for a couple of hours using his mouth and fingers and take nothing from it himself other than the pleasure of pleasuring me, I'd reach for him to take care of him but he'd say no no just enjoy yourself.......he told me he loved me 10 plus times a day (still does) touched me every time we passed, complimented me all the time.....he was and is just perfect...

I really do just enjoy worshipping her and doing whatever I can to ensure she has an orgasm. If I do then I see that as a bonus, but it's not something that I ask for or expect - although I do admit sometimes I sulk a bit when I don't have one for a while - she hasn't yet learned to take that much control over me, and often allows me use of her pussy at those times.
looking forward to learning more from you...

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Mel

That was a beautifully written narrative.

You have written many notes to me where you talked about the balance that must exist in a sub dom relationship. You did an excellent job of describing that balance in your story. Anyone who reads this must immediately recognize your love for Tony.

The story of your relationship with your husband is obviously first and foremost a romance. This is a fundamental concept that is all too often lost on this website.

I am so happy that you decided to try writing. I hope you become addicted to it. I think you have a lot to give us.

Your friend

GH

To the 880 people who have read this story without commenting. (as of 11:30 pm cdt North America)

Shame on you.

You desperately seek true stories rather than fantasies. Well boys, you have one. Give the author her due. give her a 5 rating and tell her you loved her story. Maybe she'll write more.

GH

I love real stories I gave you a five.

Essentiauk

(what does that mean?)

My husband Matt and I loved your story, but I have a question. I've tried whipping my husband and I get so hot doing it, but I also worry about hurting him. I love my husband. He wants me to do it, but I get so scared that I'm going to really hurt him. How do you deal with that?

Jenn
If you aren't having fun, you aren't doing it right!

I guess it might be Brutus2 but thats not how it is....

It started after we first visited a BDSM club and it really was just play at that stage, more a sensual/gentle flogging with suede floggers that type of thing, it grew and we started to experiment with canes, again gentle tapping rather than lashes.....there was no set date when things changed it happened over years....

I found that when I hurt him properly it turned me on, he found that because it turned me on he wanted to accept it for me....It probably took a good couple of years of talking together and talking to myself in my mind before I was able to accept that I liked inflicting pain..

As to your question, well a bit of both really, when I discipline him I use a hippo hide Sjambok and Dragon canes, it's cold harsh 30 to 50 lashes hard, one after the other with no rest bite between, he squeels goes white, sweats and is in real pain....At the time he hates it, fears it and does it to allow me to satisfy my sadistic lust, however we've talked about it many many times over the years, and whilst he fears it as the days it's happening are marked on the calander he also relishes it, and for several days after he's kind of in a eurphoric state, I guess the best I can answer is, he likes the build up, loves the come down, hates the action if that makes sense...

Mel x

The only answer I can give you to that is that it takes time effort and experimentation, learning to use the impliment of your choice well....

I struggled to deal with it for a long time, and eventually got my head round it, I wish I had a magic answer for you but I don't....

Sorry....

Mel x

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Al Baily

Many thanks for your kind words, I'm glad you enjoyed it

goodhusband

Hello You,

I enjoyed writing it very much, but I can tell you here and now that whilst I might one day be tempted to write about one set incident perhaps, I'll be leaving the writing to good story tellers such as yourself

Kind words GH and whilst I have your attention thank you for all your writing efforts I appreciate them and love your stories....

Mel x x

Thank you for sharing your story. It was a fascinating read.

essentiauk
Wow, you two truely have the life. Thank you so much for sharing and corresponding to all.

Droopy

triptix

sn1_etr

Thanks for your comments, I can't believe the amount of reads it's had

Mel x